Emancipation Day-A Day of Empowerment

On April 16, 1862 President Abraham Lincoln signed The Emancipation Proclamation and and turned a page a in history as we knew it in America.

No longer were people allowed to be owned like cattle, they were given their basic human rights back, in theory. Though it would be  a long time coming, and unfortunately in some instances bigotry and hatred still prevail with those who still feel a certain sense of entitlement.

I do celebrate the abolishment of slavery, and observe Emancipation Day. I believe that all men were created equal and are thus granted certain inalienable rights. We have the right to be free from restraint. We have the right to freedom of speech. We have the right to breathe fresh air, and drink clean water. To be free from oppression. We have the right to love and be loved. We have the right to live.

I will not be oppressed. I will not let anyone hold me down again. I have the right to love and be loved. I am free in America, and I am Emancipated, Empowered.

I Need YOU, YOU, YOU

Admitting that you need someone is not a declaration of weakness but rather an admission of empowerment. You have reached a milestone on your journey where you can see the usefulness for human contact and companionship.

Many people will pass through our lives, coming and going at various stages of our emotional development.  Lasting friendships are formed. Dynamic partnerships. Blazing Love Affairs. All of these are important. Not all of them remain a constant in your life, in fact most of them fade to memories, making way for new relationships to form.

To be complete a well balanced blend of relationships is healthy, and there is nothing wrong with admitting that you need someone.  

Love is RESPECT

Love is Respect. It can't be said i any more simpler terms.
It isn't doing or saying things degrading or demeaning to yourself or your partner, with the exception of mutual role play games.

The point I am trying to make is there is no shame in loving with your whole heart, but there is shame in taking advantage of someone's good nature or disabilities. This shows not only a lack of respect for yourself as a human being, but for humanity and the collective universe at large.

Love should be reciprocal, a mutual feeling that is built upon honesty and trust.  It should not be something taken from someone's fears or insecurities, robbing them of their self esteem and leaving them void of their soul. Theft of the soul is an abominable crime.

Love yourself enough to see the signs of charismatic predators who are willing to feed off your essence like a blood thirsty monster.

Respect Yourself. Protect Yourself. Empower Yourself with Knowledge.

Suck The Venom Out.

Letting go of one's old idea's can be challenging and frustrating, but is a vital obstacle to overcome in the personal healing process.

Often times we tend to hold on to our pain, and the tragedies that have befallen us. This will only lead to more suffering and stunt our emotional, social and spiritual growth. We have to let it go.

If a sane person were bit by a poisonous snake, they would find the means necessary to remove that snake's venom from their veins. They would not allow it to continue to coarse through their veins, knowing the ultimate result would be death.

Holding onto sadness, prior abuse, regret, and holding grudges will poison your system in the very same way a snakes venom will. It will fester inside you, control your thoughts, and ultimately rob you of any actual true happiness that you deserve.

Did you deserve these things to happen to you? No.

Does anyone deserve to be bitten by a snake?  No.

Point is You don't have to die inside, or be dead inside.

Suck the Venom Out! 

The Only Person you can change is you, and you are well worth the effort.

Commitment Ceremony For Empowerment

I will Love , Honour and Cherish Myself.
I will never take my life for granted.  Each day is a gift and I am blessed with the opportunity to be able to learn something new everyday.

I will not condone abuse in any way shape or form. It is detrimental to my well being. 

I will be a channel of love and peace, ever striving to be of maximum service to mankind. 

Through Enlightenment I shall have Empowerment.

You Are Not A Label

Owning your own part in situations can be very empowering. Realizing that there are things about yourself that are things people just don't like about you and will never like about you no matter how much you try to change them will set you free.

I had conflicts with my mother my entire life, always seeking her approval, and no matter what I did I could never win her approval. It was when she was dying that it came ti light why I would never win her approval. She felt I was too strong for her. After she had dragged me through the house by my hair , beating me up side my face call in me a cyber whore, with my sister merrily joining in, she told me that she though my sister needed her more than me because she was declared slow as a child. I was dumbfounded. I have three children myself, one has significant mr/dd delays and is Autistic, one is brilliant and is seeking a Doctorate in in Social Communications and one graduated high school and works at a factory, I love them all equally.

I never did strike my mother back during the assualt, I never struck my mother my entire life. My sister and Mother were constantly at eachother's throats and had a volatile relationship. Perhaps it was the fact my grandfather raised me and I was raised not to strike your parents or elders for that matter.

The Cyber Whore Comment did sting, I will admit. I write naughty stories, does that make me a Cyber Whore?  No. I choose not to own that today.

I was my Mother's Medical Power of Attorney. I had to coordinate her care while she was dying from cancer. I consulted with Oncologists, Radioloigists, Nurses, Nursing Home Care Givers, and Hospice Personnel. I did this and consulted her along the way. I went to visit her as often as I could, and would take my Autistic son to see her. It was hard for me to juggle caretaking duties between him, her and my elderly husband.

I have accepted that I did the best that I could possibly do given the situation.

For awhile it played upon my mind that My Mother thought a Cyber Whore held her as she died, while I envisioned the river for her to cross over to complete her journey, and end her suffering.

Not Anymore.

I don't have to accept labels others place upon me.